Green Tea - 13/5/2013 14:04
A little reverse psychology here but have you thought of going up to your mother and giving her a hug and saying "its ok mom I still love you no matter what"?
gator - 13/5/2013 19:29
08457909090 there you go mate you enjoyBodyButter - 13/5/2013 10:13
The Fear - 13/5/2013 19:08
She's happy, end of.
All this talk of coming to terms etc... ffs, she's not dying, she just likes muff.
Some of you are just ninnies!
Hope that helps.
I like muff! I think I'd make a pretty good lesbian. Does anyone have Gator's daughter's phone number?
Green Tea - 13/5/2013 14:04
I wonder though as you said in your post "Gay is not a choice"..In other words, its the way you are built? Yet your mother, not being able to come around, is it choice or the way she is built(or a bit of both)? I ask, can she really help the way she is and natural feelings that she has? If she put her arms around you and said "its ok son I still love you no matter what". Would that be her "natural" feeling? I know in many it would but your mother is who she is. If she was anything else she wouldnt be your mother!
I would certainly not give up on her. Maybe go around and just accept her the way she is? As you are in effect asking her to accept you the way you are? A little reverse psychology here but have you thought of going up to your mother and giving her a hug and saying "its ok mom I still love you no matter what"?
Green Tea - 13/5/2013 14:25
But if you went without Richard a few times, wouldnt she say one day, "where's Richard"? Which in turn may open the door slightly? Maybe you need to take smaller steps?
randy.stand - 13/5/2013 23:05
Yeah I always felt older than I was really when I was in my young teens. The reaction from my mom is just because she's so misinformed about everything. Anyone that's different in any way to my mom is strange. She's also stubborn so won't make the first move to make up. But I'm fed up of putting the effort in from my side. I've still been sending wedding anniversary cards and birthday cards etc. And there was a chance for her to do it at my nephews 4th birthday party a Month ago but didn't happen. Doors always open, I don't hold grudges.
Not too sure about the community being close. I only know 2 other gay guys and that's cos they live in the flat over corridor from ours. I don't get on with many Gay people really cos a lot of them are 'camp' and I can't deal with that, irritates me. I get on better with straight people and that's the majority of my friends. Close to my friends though who have been really good to be fair.