we are a big family and were in the bottom decile for income. Where we were better off was in terms of social mobilty- that is to say the ability to move up through better opportunities. I have, but i was the only one.
Yup im a parent but we'd need another fred for that lol. What i will say tho is although peer pressure is a relevant factor to both children and adults, parents are by far and away (wanted to say home and away) the biggest variable in child development. Indeed they are hardwired that way.
Thus poorly adjusted/behaviour kids are a statement about the parenting they have enjoyed/endured. A bit like telling an owner through their dog.
Your story does you credit, if not your generation