What ever happened to UnbelievableJeff?

[Luke Imp]

Good to hear from you again, Jeff. Better days aren't too far away, take care.

 

[UnbelievableJeff]

Thanks everyone. You're really a great bunch of people and again I have been moved by your lovely thoughts.

I will write something again, soon. It will help me again, and you'd be surprised how many people have brought up the issue of negativity with me, since I became ill. In fact the negativity really started in earnest, around ten years ago. Not my true self that.

Thanks all again, and I am kind of relaxed about the current situation at Sincil Bank. Mainly because of the board we now have. I cannot for one moment believe, that they will let the club slide and undo all of their hard work. The one thing I have had to learn in most recent times, is that if you keep on doing the same things, you keep getting the same outcome. Whether the person is capable of changing, however, is very much down to them.

Hoping for a better result tomorrow night.

 

[cherryexile]

Thanks everyone. You're really a great bunch of people and again I have been moved by your lovely thoughts.

I will write something again, soon. It will help me again, and you'd be surprised how many people have brought up the issue of negativity with me, since I became ill. In fact the negativity really started in earnest, around ten years ago. Not my true self that.

Thanks all again, and I am kind of relaxed about the current situation at Sincil Bank. Mainly because of the board we now have. I cannot for one moment believe, that they will let the club slide and undo all of their hard work. The one thing I have had to learn in most recent times, is that if you keep on doing the same things, you keep getting the same outcome. Whether the person is capable of changing, however, is very much down to them.

Hoping for a better result tomorrow night.

Well done Jeff. My only suggestion is to talk things through with those that love you, it is much harder to hide from problems if they are shared and more than one person is involved in finding a solution.

 

[bbh 11]

Best wishes Jeff, All the best, take care.

 

[Casperimp]

Thanks everyone. You're really a great bunch of people and again I have been moved by your lovely thoughts.

I will write something again, soon. It will help me again, and you'd be surprised how many people have brought up the issue of negativity with me, since I became ill. In fact the negativity really started in earnest, around ten years ago. Not my true self that.

Thanks all again, and I am kind of relaxed about the current situation at Sincil Bank. Mainly because of the board we now have. I cannot for one moment believe, that they will let the club slide and undo all of their hard work. The one thing I have had to learn in most recent times, is that if you keep on doing the same things, you keep getting the same outcome. Whether the person is capable of changing, however, is very much down to them.

Hoping for a better result tomorrow night.

So glad to hear you are moving in the right direction. It is clearly a long a difficult road but you have shown tremendous courage and I echo the sentiments that many others have written praising your openess.

It's forgotten by our polarised society and media that men also suffer from stress and abuse in relationships and your courage can hopefully be an inspiration to others who might read what you have put and look to get out of their own unhappy and stress related situations.

All the best to you and well done to you.

 

[Gratzimp]

Hi everyone.

Thank-you, from the bottom of my heart for all of your concern. I am incredibly touched and very much moved by this thread.

Truth is, I've not been very well at all. I'm still somewhat amazed that I'm still alive, considering the places I have been.

I've been recently diagnosed with complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, this ranges back from things over the past 30 years, both personally and professionally. Being a front line 24/7 emergency services worker for 18 years has not helped either.

Coupled with that, I've been going through a nasty divorce since March 2020. For 10 years I suffered from some pretty horrendous psychological abuse from my now ex wife. Not happy that I took control, before I either ended up in prison - by completely flipping and doing something daft, or ending it all, I managed to just find enough strength to get out before either happened. Obviously my ex wife didn't like me wrestling the control back for myself, and got very nasty.

So I did what many people do. I hid away and withdrew.

I am pleased to say I've been having Psychotherapy and I am on the maximum dose of medication they can give me.

I've also been off work since mid May and I am still not fixed.

My reason for sharing is two fold. Please, please, please, it is bloody hard to say "I need help" Half the time you don't know you need it, and to hold your hand up and ask for it is probably the hardest decision you can make.

Secondly, when you are flipping between complete withdrawal from life and utter sheer panic, normally around things that most of society would be puzzled by.

It has been horrendous, but I am hopefully getting better.

It wasn't until today, when I remembered this site, and I did a search on the last post I made. I then saw this one. It made me cry, as such was the kindness in it. So thank-you again.

Please let me reassure you that Mini Jeff is not so mini any more and is approaching 13 and he is growing very quickly. We still sit in the same seats and although the football hasn't been amazing (this season) in a way it has been kind to me. When I chose our seats years ago, it meant I am not surrounded by a lot of people, I sit on an end seat and I can look out on to the pitch.

As the football has not been great, it has meant that the two biggest triggers for me, loud noise and crowded areas, has not been as greater impact as it could have been.

So, I have managed to build up what little tolerance of those two things, gradually.

I am a long way to being cured, but I am on that path now, I hope you've all managed throughout this past two and a half years and if you're struggling, please ask for help. The alternative is frankly too scary to explain.

Take care all

UTI.

Massive, and I mean MASSIVE kudos to you for having the bravery and strength to post this. Too few people do so, and take the easy way out.
You should be an example to us all, that even in the darkest moments we should never be afraid to speak out, and get help. Even a bit of banter or chat on here can help.
So very pleased you are back among the fold, look forward to many more of your posts, and wish you all the very best on your continuing road to recovery.