The Fear
A Wise Man (once sat next to him)
Ladies and gentlemen and all those inbetween.
First off, thanks for the loyalty to Vital Villa. It is something neither myself or Mike ever take for granted.
But we are slightly concerned, after years of being proud of this friendly and welcoming forum, that - much like society - some things are getting a bit binary.
It is ok to debate, without name calling. It is ok to disagree but still respect the other view. If you don't respect the other view, you can at least try to understand the person behind that view and if that fails, put them on ignore.
We do not - and will not - tolerate becoming like Twitter.
We've always had banter here, people have rarely taken offence, because we have all known it is just that, banter.
So our request is if you really don't like another poster, put them on ignore. But before you do that, ask yourself, is there any harm being done? Some like to be miserable sods talking about rumours. So what? Some are ultra positive no matter what, that can be as 'annoying' but... so what? It takes all the characters to make a forum - a pub - a club - a society.
And ask yourself, if you are really wound up by someone you don't know (here, on the awful social media, in a pub/club) then isn't the problem partly with you? Why let it wind you up?
There are also some who are making up arguments to suit whatever their agenda is, whether it to be right, or to belittle, or whatever the hell it is. Things like the Southgate posts in the WC thread. No one said he was a genius, no one really wanted him in the job, but anyone daring to say anything positive or supportive, was shot down. Like the Gerrard thread. Not sure anyone was that excited by him coming, some were dead against, others like myself, thought sod it, it might work. It didn't.
Again.
So what?
This is meant to be fun. Largely it is fun. But I think we will start banning and treating those who can't take a step back and get back to the banter, like babies and put in the silly 1 and 2 week bans. Everything we have always fought against doing.
Oh and if there are any ex members reading, who want a second chance, feel free to re-join, pm me to tell me, and off we go.
Much like family, and for some of us who have a lot of time on their own through ill health or whatever, this is a sort of mad family, at times you will love it, other times it will annoy you, but surely we as a community must be doing something right, because we all keep coming back.
Thanks to all the posters, new and old (some great new additions this year btw) and to those of you who lurk, read and hopefully laugh along with us.
Oh and I think I might freeze some of the threads in Off Topic quicker, if they start to get too serious, too right/left - wrong/right. We aren't really hear to do make the judgements.
And I think it is only fair if people are putting up an argument as fact, that they back up the argument with links or proof of their thinking (not unknown arses calling themselves influences on twitter) or just admit, it is their own argument and not try to dress it up as anything else.
And most importantly
1) FA Cup please
2) Have a happy, healthy, New Year... whether you are one of my favourite posters, most treasured regulars, or people I have locked horns with.
New Year, New Start.
Same shit, different day will = us taking action and with the pressure I'm under with brain aches, family health and a very decent work life at the moment, - and other mods having their own issues/stresses/lives - that really wouldn't be fair.
Peace and love.
VTWD
UTV
MF can add his thoughts into this and then we can open it up.
First off, thanks for the loyalty to Vital Villa. It is something neither myself or Mike ever take for granted.
But we are slightly concerned, after years of being proud of this friendly and welcoming forum, that - much like society - some things are getting a bit binary.
It is ok to debate, without name calling. It is ok to disagree but still respect the other view. If you don't respect the other view, you can at least try to understand the person behind that view and if that fails, put them on ignore.
We do not - and will not - tolerate becoming like Twitter.
We've always had banter here, people have rarely taken offence, because we have all known it is just that, banter.
So our request is if you really don't like another poster, put them on ignore. But before you do that, ask yourself, is there any harm being done? Some like to be miserable sods talking about rumours. So what? Some are ultra positive no matter what, that can be as 'annoying' but... so what? It takes all the characters to make a forum - a pub - a club - a society.
And ask yourself, if you are really wound up by someone you don't know (here, on the awful social media, in a pub/club) then isn't the problem partly with you? Why let it wind you up?
There are also some who are making up arguments to suit whatever their agenda is, whether it to be right, or to belittle, or whatever the hell it is. Things like the Southgate posts in the WC thread. No one said he was a genius, no one really wanted him in the job, but anyone daring to say anything positive or supportive, was shot down. Like the Gerrard thread. Not sure anyone was that excited by him coming, some were dead against, others like myself, thought sod it, it might work. It didn't.
Again.
So what?
This is meant to be fun. Largely it is fun. But I think we will start banning and treating those who can't take a step back and get back to the banter, like babies and put in the silly 1 and 2 week bans. Everything we have always fought against doing.
Oh and if there are any ex members reading, who want a second chance, feel free to re-join, pm me to tell me, and off we go.
Much like family, and for some of us who have a lot of time on their own through ill health or whatever, this is a sort of mad family, at times you will love it, other times it will annoy you, but surely we as a community must be doing something right, because we all keep coming back.
Thanks to all the posters, new and old (some great new additions this year btw) and to those of you who lurk, read and hopefully laugh along with us.
Oh and I think I might freeze some of the threads in Off Topic quicker, if they start to get too serious, too right/left - wrong/right. We aren't really hear to do make the judgements.
And I think it is only fair if people are putting up an argument as fact, that they back up the argument with links or proof of their thinking (not unknown arses calling themselves influences on twitter) or just admit, it is their own argument and not try to dress it up as anything else.
And most importantly
1) FA Cup please
2) Have a happy, healthy, New Year... whether you are one of my favourite posters, most treasured regulars, or people I have locked horns with.
New Year, New Start.
Same shit, different day will = us taking action and with the pressure I'm under with brain aches, family health and a very decent work life at the moment, - and other mods having their own issues/stresses/lives - that really wouldn't be fair.
Peace and love.
VTWD
UTV
MF can add his thoughts into this and then we can open it up.