mike_field
Vital Football Legend
Wow, having worked hard on the confidence of the eldest (after basic disagreements in the early months behaviour wise), we actually had our first falling out tonight.
It was cold, she wanted to go outside to flump. I was cold and had put the rads on as my fingers went, so wouldn't let her. Cue 30 odd minutes of whining (I tried to ignore and only praise when she shut up, but I was working on a horse racing story at the time, so got a little bit angry).
When she didn't listen to commands, I took her into the hallway and shut the door on her to prove a point.
Total silence for ten minutes, so time to reward her, and then I invited her outside and she was confused. But then gave me a little lick and buggered off.
I don't know if I got this right, but whilst I like her demanding as her confidence has grown (their behaviour suggested youngest was favoured and eldest should stay quiet) I couldn't let ignoring instruction go.
The dumb thing being, if she'd shut up I'd have let her back out anyway as I'd warmed up.
It was cold, she wanted to go outside to flump. I was cold and had put the rads on as my fingers went, so wouldn't let her. Cue 30 odd minutes of whining (I tried to ignore and only praise when she shut up, but I was working on a horse racing story at the time, so got a little bit angry).
When she didn't listen to commands, I took her into the hallway and shut the door on her to prove a point.
Total silence for ten minutes, so time to reward her, and then I invited her outside and she was confused. But then gave me a little lick and buggered off.
I don't know if I got this right, but whilst I like her demanding as her confidence has grown (their behaviour suggested youngest was favoured and eldest should stay quiet) I couldn't let ignoring instruction go.
The dumb thing being, if she'd shut up I'd have let her back out anyway as I'd warmed up.