Jesus there is some interesting reading on here, make your own mind up, to have or not to have, whatever way you look at it there are risks any which way you go, so up to the individual.
Me and Mrs PY, who is as you all know seriously ill, with her RSD/CRPS, have both had our "double jabs" Mrs PY had a couple of days iffy after, but that was expected with her ailment, she is fine, if you can call it fine, now back to normal suffering prior to both jabs.
Me after both nothing, nadda, nout, zilch as if nothing had happened.
Every oppo of mine who have had both, have been like me, nothing!
I am sorry RD that you and the missus are having adverse problems.
But I think the biggest problem is we are not all the same, thus a minority do suffer but the majority do not.