Vital Forest - Mental/Physical Wellbeing Groupchat

speel-gedling said:
I'm early 60's and this time last year I was in a wheelchair. I had 3 covid jabs but still eventually caught it. I shook it off really quickly (I've had worse bouts of flu) but eventually and slowly but surely I lost the use of my legs. I have been diagnosed with neuropathy in the legs and my consultant said I'd better get used to it as it's irreversible. Two years on I weight train at the gym 2 or 3 times a week, have holistic massage therapy once a month and now walk using just one hiking pole. I quit drinking 2 years ago and eat clean healthy food. I haven't finished yet I intend to keep pushing on and eventually throw that damn hiking pole in the bin. Depression hit me hard as I couldn't stand up let alone walk and had to finish work through ill health but I motivated myself with books and videos and some pure grit and determination. My message to anyone struggling is just a simple keep blasting even if you feel you're not getting anywhere because others will see a difference in you even if you don't. After a lifetime of martial arts training my mindset what pretty strong anyway. The teachings of Bruce Lee helped me enormously and right now I'm doing natural bodybuilding in my 60s. Fuck it. If it kills you it kills you!. Walk on chaps, walk on!
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Absolutely brilliant!!!
 
weejockmcplop said:
I'm quite overweight at the moment and trying to shed some.
I'm also extremely unfit from 9 months or so completely unable to do anything approaching exercise so I have to be pretty careful with what I do. My dialysis treatment also sucks all the water out of my blood, lowering my blood pressure, and I'm only allowed to drink 800ml of fluid per day, so although I love going for long walks I have to be really damn careful when the sun is out or I'll pass out from low blood pressure due to dehydrated blood.
Its a right tightrope to walk!
At the moment I'm so unfit that taking a rapid walk up a big hill & back will knacker me out for a good 20 minutes after I've stopped but I'm trying to build up to starting cycling again.
Once I can do the 6 mile bike to work I'll be golden, but I would imagine its going to take quite a long time building up to that.

All of this is noticeably helping my mental health too (most of the time at least). Time away from the computer is way more necessary now my work involves mostly staring at screens.
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I seriously recommend you try holistic massage therapy and take up Tai Chi or Yoga or both. You'll thank yourself mate.
 
Thanks Wolf for starting this.


I am mid 40s and I have run my own business with my wife for nearly 20 years and every year is stressful employing up to 50 people etc.


But despite getting through covid and keeping people employed, paying their mortgages we have had a rough ride this past couple of years where people have basically slacked off and couldn’t be arsed to put the effort in depsite us both working 20 hours a days to keep everyone in a job. The irony being that we help companies keep their teams engaged and happy, improve wellbeing etc..


We have been very fortunate to be able to run our lives as we want but following the hiring of a bunch of over paid people that couldn’t give a fkkk we have gone from a £3-5m TO business with ok profits to losing 800k last year and now £1m in debt.

We moved to the US last year for an adventure before the wheels came off and life was good, kids loved school and things were looking up.

Fast forward 12 months and we are back as we had to return to rescue the business and exit the costs, kids now in a local school and it’s a harsh change form Texas life and I am miserable every day, going into an office that I hate as I can see how much money it costs me every day, and it feels like forever since we were a company that made a profit every month.


We are still so fortunate but feel so resentful that I have basically paid for people to have a comfortable few years erning money for nothing and I am now personally liable for the debt.


I am sorting it all out but seems like a very long dark tunnel before the light, and the stress it has on my family life given my wife and I both run the company.


I feel like I am firefighting every day with finances, I absolutely hate it.


And I drink every day, high functioning. Drink a fair bit, but up early kids to school, work, run, football etc.. but I do drink a lot.


I am a positive person and never really understood depression before but I do now.

I love my wife and two teenage daughters and want to give them a platform to do all they want and feel such guilt that I have given then taken away their US dream of highschool etc..


Anyway not sure this is exactly what you were looking for on this thread but there it is.

Oh and out of nowhere my dog went blind pretty much overnight ☹

But I love forest and loving wearing my various forest tops when I play 😊
 
Pope John XXIII said:
Not sure where to start to be honest.

I'm early 40s, in education. I teach only a little bit now as I'm a bit more senior. Not exactly headteacher level but to the side of that. My job is a lot more stationary than it used to be and involves a lot of car travelling. So I don't get as many steps in as I used to. However, my job now is significantly less stressful than when I was senior in a single school.

I have a son who has severe autism and ADHD. He is hypo sensitive, which means that he is sensation seeking. He doesn't need headphones because of sensitivity to noise, he makes noise, lots of it. Everywhere. He also seeks touch so is very rough. His ADHD makes him very impulsive. We are talking ripping all the wallpaper off the walls, running towards us with knives kind of impulsive when he was younger. Meds have helped. He goes to a fantastic special school.

This sounds bad, but he is a wonderful, hilarious and kind hearted. He absolutely loves his family, he makes everyone laugh. He and his sister have an amazing relationship, even though she is classed as a young carer for him. I love that kid with all my heart.

But he has severe learning disabilities as well. He has just, this month, finally got out of nappies in the daytime at the age of nine. This is a triumph akin to winning a Nobel Prize in our family. He has no sense of danger, would run away or into traffic if given the chance, so he has to wear reigns whenever we go out. We get comments about him being a dog for that. Fuck them.

We will have to look after him for the rest of our lives. He will never work, live independently. He'll likely never fall in love, get married or lead a "normal" life. He will always be with us. When I retire, it won't be to holidays in Spain or world cruises, or to living by the sea. It will be to becoming a carer full time. And as we get older, he gets bigger and stronger. Our son at 16 or 18 is a worry. He is already strong enough that my wife can't move him. It's hard to think that there isn't sunset uplands to look forward to in old age. I haven't started to worry yet how we'll look after him when we are really old. I haven't even started worrying who will look after him when we are gone. Thats in the post.

My daughter is also autistic but far more mild. She is just becoming a teenager. She will be ok. She has a very limited diet, probably has a condition called Arfid. We have a great relationship and she is fantastic with her brother. But she knows she's different from other girls at school. She struggles socially. She is finding herself at the moment a bit, and I'm all for that.

My wife is also autistic, diagnosed as an adult. It's a familiar story- autistic kid makes you question your own life. We have a fantastic relationship after 21 years together. But she does get overwhelmed sometimes. Some stats suggest the divorce rate for SEN parents like us is 80% if you have one SEN child, so I guess we are doing ok.

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. It makes me come across quite manic at times. I can't do anything fiddly- I couldn't be an electrician for instance, although I know lots of electricians who have ADHD but a different profile to me. I'm awful at DIY because I just want it done. I don't have the patience. I move everywhere really fast- if I have to slow down it's like my brain is screaming. If someone is standing in my way, the same. In conversation I'll jump from one thing to another. If I go somewhere, even if it's somewhere I've been really looking forward to going/doing, as soon as I'm there my brain will want to leave to get into the next thing.

Best way to describe it is using the "channel up" button on a remote control every few seconds. My brain is like that. It keeps flicking up through channels. Each one might (or might not) have some vague relation to the last.

I'm lucky. For some it is absolutely debilitating. For me it's both the best and worst of me. There is no middle ground me. All the successes I've had in my career and with my family have been due to ADHD traits. It's made me a great teacher. But it's a nightmare with marking.

I also have something called Generalised Anxiety disorder. it's the pits. Basically severe anxiety. If you have this, you are always anxious. Always. Non stop. Can be anything. Maybe there is a leaky pipe somewhere?. Have I really done my taxes? That little thing at work. Where am I going to park? What if I forgot about a bank account in overdraft 15 years ago and now owe tens of thousands? My health. Did I leave the water on?

It's endless. I'm almost never not anxious about something. My ADHD brain will get into circular thinking that catastrophises everything. I end up in the middle of the night checking that I did insure the house, or that I did send that email in November of last year. I can't stop it. I'm far worse when I'm on holiday from work so my mind is less busy- in the holidays it gets out of control completely and I really feel sorry for Mrs Pope. It's exhausting for her but she has no real idea of the actual extent of it because I have to keep most of it hidden. This is an inheritance from my mother, who is probably worse than I am. It's definitely got a lot worse as I got older.

I am happy in life and have no desire to meet my maker whatsoever. But I do think times that when I eventually do, at least it will release me from the anxiety. I reckon a few people on here who have experienced depression will probably recognise that.
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It's moving Pope what you are dealing with and coping with and staying so positive for for all your familys sake. Your wife must know she's got a good one !!!

And your kids are lucky to have you just as you are lucky to have them

Makes all our football chat seem so irrelevant as well

But then again Forest must give you a big release. Hopefully they give us all less anxiety this season!

Does your daughter goto Forest with you?
 
I'm a firm believer that a man needs a purpose. Have a plan for the day ahead and make sure that you do something productive.

Get out in the fresh air . No such thing as bad weather only bad clothes...I love the peace of a walk in the rain. Sleep great after it.

My mother lived to 97. I never heard her complain once in my life . Positive approach to everything. She was carrying heavy shopping up a big hill at 89 (derby road for many years). Years of walking daily kept her vitals strong and her joints.

Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise
 
Long time lurker here 😏 not officially Introduced myself on the forum yet so apologies for gate crashing here.

I'm 60 now and for the last 9 months I've been living in a rented bedroom I found online after a very acrimonious divorce, at this point I'm waiting to be paid off my share of the house as the ex is buying me out.

I won't bore you with all the details but the ex has also turned our son against me, he's 22 so a man now. He hasn't spoken to me since early June after we had an argument when his mum coincidentally had an episode on the night of my 60th birthday, this 'episode' resulted in him being unable to attend my birthday celebrations. The fallout came when I suggested to him that the 'episode' was possibly done maliciously.

To compound things I had an issue at work for which I'm now under investigation. So things have 'snowballed for me somewhat and so for the last 4 weeks I've been off with stress.

I'm not a regular drinker, so I can manage that side no problem, although did get blasted at the Wolves game 😜.

I have like many of you. thrown myself into my physical wellbeing, I've always been a regular gym goer but now go every day, I do weights and cardio on the cross trainer.

My plan once I get my house money is to retire and run off. I have a one way ticket to Asia booked for the end of next month. My hard thought out plan is to live off the house money for 6.5 years leaving my pensions alone and then once I reach state pension age, along with my private pensions, I will ' over there' have no financial worries at least.

The only thing I will miss is matchdays, I don't have a season card but have been fortunate enough to get to both games so far and thoroughly enjoyed proper old school days, starting at 12:00 and finishing at 22:00 with a curry.

2 Years ago I could never have for seen being in the position I am now, but with every change comes 'opportunity'. My dad died at 62 with no previous medical history (bowl cancer). So in my current circumstances I made the decision to buy back 7 years of my life, I'm able to do that as the cost of living in Asia is much cheaper than the uk, the obvious downside being unfortunately it's 5k miles away! But.......it does have its plus points :)
 
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Thewolf/jimmygordon said:
It's moving Pope what you are dealing with and coping with and staying so positive for for all your familys sake. Your wife must know she's got a good one !!!

And your kids are lucky to have you just as you are lucky to have them

Makes all our football chat seem so irrelevant as well

But then again Forest must give you a big release. Hopefully they give us all less anxiety this season!

Does your daughter goto Forest with you?
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No. Tried for years. Her last game was actually Steve Cooper's first game against Millwall and she was bored and wanted to go at half time.

I took her to Panthers for her 10th birthday and she absolutely fell in love with ice hockey. So I have a season ticket for that now and that's what we do together.

Our son sees us going in our shirts and really wants to go. It's difficult because he won't be able to sit still for that time. The noise might also be too much. I really want to take him but would need to be with my wife, end of a row near an exit etc so he can cope.
 
splitty62 said:
Thanks Wolf for starting this.


I am mid 40s and I have run my own business with my wife for nearly 20 years and every year is stressful employing up to 50 people etc.


But despite getting through covid and keeping people employed, paying their mortgages we have had a rough ride this past couple of years where people have basically slacked off and couldn’t be arsed to put the effort in depsite us both working 20 hours a days to keep everyone in a job. The irony being that we help companies keep their teams engaged and happy, improve wellbeing etc..


We have been very fortunate to be able to run our lives as we want but following the hiring of a bunch of over paid people that couldn’t give a fkkk we have gone from a £3-5m TO business with ok profits to losing 800k last year and now £1m in debt.

We moved to the US last year for an adventure before the wheels came off and life was good, kids loved school and things were looking up.

Fast forward 12 months and we are back as we had to return to rescue the business and exit the costs, kids now in a local school and it’s a harsh change form Texas life and I am miserable every day, going into an office that I hate as I can see how much money it costs me every day, and it feels like forever since we were a company that made a profit every month.


We are still so fortunate but feel so resentful that I have basically paid for people to have a comfortable few years erning money for nothing and I am now personally liable for the debt.


I am sorting it all out but seems like a very long dark tunnel before the light, and the stress it has on my family life given my wife and I both run the company.


I feel like I am firefighting every day with finances, I absolutely hate it.


And I drink every day, high functioning. Drink a fair bit, but up early kids to school, work, run, football etc.. but I do drink a lot.


I am a positive person and never really understood depression before but I do now.

I love my wife and two teenage daughters and want to give them a platform to do all they want and feel such guilt that I have given then taken away their US dream of highschool etc..


Anyway not sure this is exactly what you were looking for on this thread but there it is.

Oh and out of nowhere my dog went blind pretty much overnight ☹

But I love forest and loving wearing my various forest tops when I play 😊
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One of the single best things you could do right now for yourself and your family would be to cut down on the drink or even better quit. Your financial situation would improve slightly and your health and wellbeing would benefit dramatically. You'd be surprised how much energy you get back from cutting back on the booze. Energy it sounds like you need.
Good luck in your future endeavours mate.
 
the jock said:
I'm a firm believer that a man needs a purpose. Have a plan for the day ahead and make sure that you do something productive.

Get out in the fresh air . No such thing as bad weather only bad clothes...I love the peace of a walk in the rain. Sleep great after it.

My mother lived to 97. I never heard her complain once in my life . Positive approach to everything. She was carrying heavy shopping up a big hill at 89 (derby road for many years). Years of walking daily kept her vitals strong and her joints.

Early to bed and early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise
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Brilliant advice
 
I don't want to squash all of the empathy and soul- bearing on here, but I do think that everyone ought to be quite careful about what they put on this thread.

(1) Anybody can read the posts on this forum. We don't even need to have accounts.
(2) While this Forum operates on a no- names policy, some people (me included) know the names (and indeed have met) some of the posters on here. Once personal confidential information has been shared on the forum, it has potentially been shared with everyone in the world.

While the aim is supportive and encouraging, people are already divulging very personal and confidential information, not just about themselves but also the health of their partners and in some cases, children. It is not necessarily ours to share. Please think very carefully about your, and your family's, privacy, and whether you actually have consent to disclose this sort of information. Ask yourself: do you want everybody who comes across the site to know these intimate details about your life and your family? And also bear in mind that some of what has been shared on here could lead to people who want to identifying (if they did not already know the poster), and be able to find out other information that perhaps you have not shared.

There are no criticisms of anyone, and I completely appreciate the spirit in which this thread has come about. But it would be awful if some of what has been put on here ended up being misused.
 
A very good thread to start. Before I start I do feel a bit of a fraud, which makes me very grateful now hearing your stories. Over the weekend a lot of us realised that Weejock was on dialysis, so I took a moment to PM him my thoughts and concerns.

Its small things which hopefully made Weejock content for a little while as it was genuine, and none of us can really appreciate what we each go through on a day to day basis.

We have this kinship on here supporting the team we love, and its great to get to know some people a bit better on here.

I'm 54, been in Toronto area since 2009, and now up in Blue Mountain the last 5 years.
Daughter has just finished the bar in LA, waiting on her results to hopefully become an entertainment lawyer

Son is 22 and chef in downtown Toronto, at one of the best restaurants in Canada, and may move to London next year, or the US to continue this.

Health wise is where I feel fortunate. I play twice a week, and run one of these teams. Golf, gravel bike, and get to CrossFit at least 3 times a week.
Apart from a sore patella, and wanting to lose about 7-8 pounds I can't complain. Will hopefully continue playing for another 10 years if I can.

I am starting to have urges to return back to the UK. I love London and would live there in a heartbeat, I want a Forest season ticket again, and I miss the craic, my mates, the food, the English countryside.

Canada is great, but its not home. Living here, as it's F'in massive, means that if I lived in London and had to drive to Nottingham every 2 weeks, thats nothing.

Hoping to get tickets to Arsenal v Forest on Nov 23rd through an Arsenal member who I play with.
 
speel-gedling said:
One of the single best things you could do right now for yourself and your family would be to cut down on the drink or even better quit. Your financial situation would improve slightly and your health and wellbeing would benefit dramatically. You'd be surprised how much energy you get back from cutting back on the booze. Energy it sounds like you need.
Good luck in your future endeavours mate.
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i agree completely and although not ideal, i have cut back and try not to drink in the week. tbf i don't binge drink, i don't go out and get pissed, i just tend to drink most days until recently, but sound advice for sure
 
splitty62 said:
Thanks Wolf for starting this.


I am mid 40s and I have run my own business with my wife for nearly 20 years and every year is stressful employing up to 50 people etc.


But despite getting through covid and keeping people employed, paying their mortgages we have had a rough ride this past couple of years where people have basically slacked off and couldn’t be arsed to put the effort in depsite us both working 20 hours a days to keep everyone in a job. The irony being that we help companies keep their teams engaged and happy, improve wellbeing etc..


We have been very fortunate to be able to run our lives as we want but following the hiring of a bunch of over paid people that couldn’t give a fkkk we have gone from a £3-5m TO business with ok profits to losing 800k last year and now £1m in debt.

We moved to the US last year for an adventure before the wheels came off and life was good, kids loved school and things were looking up.

Fast forward 12 months and we are back as we had to return to rescue the business and exit the costs, kids now in a local school and it’s a harsh change form Texas life and I am miserable every day, going into an office that I hate as I can see how much money it costs me every day, and it feels like forever since we were a company that made a profit every month.


We are still so fortunate but feel so resentful that I have basically paid for people to have a comfortable few years erning money for nothing and I am now personally liable for the debt.


I am sorting it all out but seems like a very long dark tunnel before the light, and the stress it has on my family life given my wife and I both run the company.


I feel like I am firefighting every day with finances, I absolutely hate it.


And I drink every day, high functioning. Drink a fair bit, but up early kids to school, work, run, football etc.. but I do drink a lot.


I am a positive person and never really understood depression before but I do now.

I love my wife and two teenage daughters and want to give them a platform to do all they want and feel such guilt that I have given then taken away their US dream of highschool etc..


Anyway not sure this is exactly what you were looking for on this thread but there it is.

Oh and out of nowhere my dog went blind pretty much overnight ☹

But I love forest and loving wearing my various forest tops when I play 😊
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Wow

You just don't realise the personalities and life stories behind the user names!

I feel your pain about employees

Pre pandemic we had 20 plus employees

Had to totally change our business during the pandemic

Post pandemic we try not to have any employees now and just do things easier and better and cleverer

Way happier now with what we do

Not so much busy fools any more

For every great employee we've employed in the past there must have been 2 or 3 average or bad ones

I'm sure with focus you will get to where you want to be. Need to stay fit and healthy though to make it happen

I agree with the poster above to try and replace the alcohol with healthier stuff and just regroup and make what you need to happen happen

I reckon this thread is a good place for you to be. Hopefully we can follow you as you progress to where you want to be
 
chandos9 said:
I don't want to squash all of the empathy and soul- bearing on here, but I do think that everyone ought to be quite careful about what they put on this thread.

(1) Anybody can read the posts on this forum. We don't even need to have accounts.
(2) While this Forum operates on a no- names policy, some people (me included) know the names (and indeed have met) some of the posters on here. Once personal confidential information has been shared on the forum, it has potentially been shared with everyone in the world.

While the aim is supportive and encouraging, people are already divulging very personal and confidential information, not just about themselves but also the health of their partners and in some cases, children. It is not necessarily ours to share. Please think very carefully about your, and your family's, privacy, and whether you actually have consent to disclose this sort of information. Ask yourself: do you want everybody who comes across the site to know these intimate details about your life and your family? And also bear in mind that some of what has been shared on here could lead to people who want to identifying (if they did not already know the poster), and be able to find out other information that perhaps you have not shared.

There are no criticisms of anyone, and I completely appreciate the spirit in which this thread has come about. But it would be awful if some of what has been put on here ended up being misused.
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Good advice. I'm happy to talk in general about my situation but not specific details

I don't know who any of you are but if others do then take care what you say
 
Pope John XXIII said:
Not sure where to start to be honest.

I'm early 40s, in education. I teach only a little bit now as I'm a bit more senior. Not exactly headteacher level but to the side of that. My job is a lot more stationary than it used to be and involves a lot of car travelling. So I don't get as many steps in as I used to. However, my job now is significantly less stressful than when I was senior in a single school.

I have a son who has severe autism and ADHD. He is hypo sensitive, which means that he is sensation seeking. He doesn't need headphones because of sensitivity to noise, he makes noise, lots of it. Everywhere. He also seeks touch so is very rough. His ADHD makes him very impulsive. We are talking ripping all the wallpaper off the walls, running towards us with knives kind of impulsive when he was younger. Meds have helped. He goes to a fantastic special school.

This sounds bad, but he is a wonderful, hilarious and kind hearted. He absolutely loves his family, he makes everyone laugh. He and his sister have an amazing relationship, even though she is classed as a young carer for him. I love that kid with all my heart.

But he has severe learning disabilities as well. He has just, this month, finally got out of nappies in the daytime at the age of nine. This is a triumph akin to winning a Nobel Prize in our family. He has no sense of danger, would run away or into traffic if given the chance, so he has to wear reigns whenever we go out. We get comments about him being a dog for that. Fuck them.

We will have to look after him for the rest of our lives. He will never work, live independently. He'll likely never fall in love, get married or lead a "normal" life. He will always be with us. When I retire, it won't be to holidays in Spain or world cruises, or to living by the sea. It will be to becoming a carer full time. And as we get older, he gets bigger and stronger. Our son at 16 or 18 is a worry. He is already strong enough that my wife can't move him. It's hard to think that there isn't sunset uplands to look forward to in old age. I haven't started to worry yet how we'll look after him when we are really old. I haven't even started worrying who will look after him when we are gone. Thats in the post.

My daughter is also autistic but far more mild. She is just becoming a teenager. She will be ok. She has a very limited diet, probably has a condition called Arfid. We have a great relationship and she is fantastic with her brother. But she knows she's different from other girls at school. She struggles socially. She is finding herself at the moment a bit, and I'm all for that.

My wife is also autistic, diagnosed as an adult. It's a familiar story- autistic kid makes you question your own life. We have a fantastic relationship after 21 years together. But she does get overwhelmed sometimes. Some stats suggest the divorce rate for SEN parents like us is 80% if you have one SEN child, so I guess we are doing ok.

I was recently diagnosed with ADHD. It makes me come across quite manic at times. I can't do anything fiddly- I couldn't be an electrician for instance, although I know lots of electricians who have ADHD but a different profile to me. I'm awful at DIY because I just want it done. I don't have the patience. I move everywhere really fast- if I have to slow down it's like my brain is screaming. If someone is standing in my way, the same. In conversation I'll jump from one thing to another. If I go somewhere, even if it's somewhere I've been really looking forward to going/doing, as soon as I'm there my brain will want to leave to get into the next thing.

Best way to describe it is using the "channel up" button on a remote control every few seconds. My brain is like that. It keeps flicking up through channels. Each one might (or might not) have some vague relation to the last.

I'm lucky. For some it is absolutely debilitating. For me it's both the best and worst of me. There is no middle ground me. All the successes I've had in my career and with my family have been due to ADHD traits. It's made me a great teacher. But it's a nightmare with marking.

I also have something called Generalised Anxiety disorder. it's the pits. Basically severe anxiety. If you have this, you are always anxious. Always. Non stop. Can be anything. Maybe there is a leaky pipe somewhere?. Have I really done my taxes? That little thing at work. Where am I going to park? What if I forgot about a bank account in overdraft 15 years ago and now owe tens of thousands? My health. Did I leave the water on?

It's endless. I'm almost never not anxious about something. My ADHD brain will get into circular thinking that catastrophises everything. I end up in the middle of the night checking that I did insure the house, or that I did send that email in November of last year. I can't stop it. I'm far worse when I'm on holiday from work so my mind is less busy- in the holidays it gets out of control completely and I really feel sorry for Mrs Pope. It's exhausting for her but she has no real idea of the actual extent of it because I have to keep most of it hidden. This is an inheritance from my mother, who is probably worse than I am. It's definitely got a lot worse as I got older.

I am happy in life and have no desire to meet my maker whatsoever. But I do think sometimes that when I eventually do, at least it will release me from the anxiety. I reckon a few people on here who have experienced depression will probably recognise that.
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Wow.

A lot there, Pope. Best of luck, though you seem to be able to manage it all.

I wonder if my ex has ADHD - she can move from one idea of 'what to do today' to several more within seconds, completely unpredictable. Always losing keys, bus pass, whatever. Scatty, but bags of energy.

I'm the opposite - cautious, don't lose stuff as I always put it in the same place.

But I recognise your worry stuff. I also get dark thoughts intruding - what's the worst that could happen? - but I manage to keep a lid on these tendencies.

My daughter was about to travel by plane, and I watched La Bamba on TV. The story of Richie Valens, killed in a plane crash. What was I doing?

But that helped me face down the negative voices - she was fine and doesn't need my worrying about her.

Worrying about other people is the most negative thing you can do as it involves imagining something bad happening to them. It's sick. And yet I do it all the time. As I get older I find it easier to see past these tendencies. In the words of that questionable bit of pseudo-wisdom, 'Desiderata',

"although it may be unclear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should".
 
One thing I've also learnt already from the thread is I'm going to have to restrict my posting to a couple of short times a day to respond and update as otherwise I could spend hours in this one every day

I will be back tomorrow

It's scheduled in my routine now for 15 mins in the morning !

But can I stick to my planned schedule??

Lol
 
Pope John XXIII said:
I also have something called Generalised Anxiety disorder. it's the pits. Basically severe anxiety. If you have this, you are always anxious. Always. Non stop. Can be anything. Maybe there is a leaky pipe somewhere?. Have I really done my taxes? That little thing at work. Where am I going to park? What if I forgot about a bank account in overdraft 15 years ago and now owe tens of thousands? My health. Did I leave the water on?
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I'm very much like that Pope if something happens, within a few hours I will have thought it through to the possible worse case scenario & nothing can shift my thought processes from that & I can't rest until I have sorted it out, which is OK unless it is something that is beyond your control & you can't sort it out.
 
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