BBJ
Father Of The Forum
It looks as though one of our daughters is going to get married - for the second time.
This is somewhere we've never been as a family.
She was married in the mid 90s and pulled the plug in late 2009 on account of his controlling and emotionally abusive behaviour.
They have two sons who have been turning into mini-models of their dad who has been, to put it mildly, a huge disappointment. They're both now in their early teens. They live a long way from us otherwise their backsides might well have got to know my current shoeleather by now.
The new guy is a fair bit older than her. (He's 12 years younger than me.) He too is divorced and has two older children (late teens and early twenties). His relationship with his ex is somewhat less poisonous than our daughter's with "yer man". He's also a very successful businessman (he has a small yacht!).
It'll all be a heady mix - a couple with four kids between them, two of them more than a little mixed-up and the malign presence of my erstwhile (and less loved than he used to be) son-in-law.
Who knows how things will progress. Mrs BBJ is very concerned. My own view is that they are two big grown-up people and must get on with their lives as they now want to. In the longer run, our grandsons might well benefit from having half-decent male role models in their lives (their new stepdad and stepbrother).
This is somewhere we've never been as a family.
She was married in the mid 90s and pulled the plug in late 2009 on account of his controlling and emotionally abusive behaviour.
They have two sons who have been turning into mini-models of their dad who has been, to put it mildly, a huge disappointment. They're both now in their early teens. They live a long way from us otherwise their backsides might well have got to know my current shoeleather by now.
The new guy is a fair bit older than her. (He's 12 years younger than me.) He too is divorced and has two older children (late teens and early twenties). His relationship with his ex is somewhat less poisonous than our daughter's with "yer man". He's also a very successful businessman (he has a small yacht!).
It'll all be a heady mix - a couple with four kids between them, two of them more than a little mixed-up and the malign presence of my erstwhile (and less loved than he used to be) son-in-law.
Who knows how things will progress. Mrs BBJ is very concerned. My own view is that they are two big grown-up people and must get on with their lives as they now want to. In the longer run, our grandsons might well benefit from having half-decent male role models in their lives (their new stepdad and stepbrother).