To the woman who tutted

kefkat

kefkat

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Not all disabilities are visible. Yes I have had this 1 before, too. I guess alot of us know on here about the invisibility. Hence I carry a card with me about my need for toilets. Not that I necessarily have time to flash it

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Dear lady who loudly tutted at me using the disabled loos,

I know you saw me running in, with my able bodied legs and all. You saw me opening the door with my two working arms. You saw me without a wheelchair. Without any visible sign of disability.

You tutted loudly as I rattled the handle with my hands that work perfectly and my able voice call to my kids that I’d be out in just a minute.

My lack of wheelchair may have suggested to you that I was some lazy cow who didn’t care. Some inconsiderate bitch who was using something I wasn’t entitled too. (I actually carry a card to explain that I’m entitled to and have a disability key if you’d have cared to ask). You may have seen my face blushing as I caught your eye and assumed I was showing guilt at blagging the disabled loos.

The fact is that I have no bowel. I have a pouch formed from my small intestine which can’t handle volume and so I have to go to the toilet and poo several times a day. My lack of large intestine means that my stool is totally liquid as I have no means of absorbing the fluids in food and so its really hard to hold it when I need to go.

I sometimes have accidents which means a large toilet that has a sink right by me means I can clean myself up when things go awry.

I hate having to use the disabled loos as I have to deal with people like you staring, nudging, tutting. And whenever I can, I use the ladies toilets. Just so you know, disabled loos usually smell bad and don’t seem to be cleaned as often or as well as the ladies and so I wouldn’t choose this option unless totally necessary.

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Tut Tut :22: :17: :67:

Take no bloody notice KK, should have said ''would you like me to pizz in your handbag?'' It is about time some people realised the basics of life that they do not know everything and although they might be fine and all well health wise now, there is no guarentee in this life they will stay that way or a loved one, shocks me the ignorance towards even the very thought some decide not to even entertain that some people ''might'' have something wrong and needs,,,,,they have commonsenseitus needs,

I was tutted at once by a nasty bitch who was annoyed cos she had to wait for my 2 year old was getting into the car and she couldn't get passed,,,,i said politely to her with her fella in the car ''what's a matter luv, ay ya getting any??'' she went red in the face and opened mouthed and hurried off,,,,i hate ignorant people who am selfish, feck off away from me if you am like this cos i won't suffer em tbh :72:
 
Not quite perfect for this situation, but the over all vibe of how little she matters is what I mean when I say-Those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter
 
I like to believe in karma, and I like to believe this pathetic specimen will tut at the wrong person and get her head kicked in.
 
Why would you care if somebody tuts at you? You'd have to be super sensitive to go to the trouble of writing an article because somebody tutted at you.

If this woman can use the disabled toilets because she has a small bladder, can I use it because I have a small dick?
 
Body butter.....

Its called a coping strategy. If it makes kk feel better about the situation so be it. Thats what group forums are for? We cant all be as super human as you.
 
colavfc - 20/2/2015 17:28

Body butter.....

Its called a coping strategy. If it makes kk feel better about the situation so be it. Thats what group forums are for? We cant all be as super human as you.
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Thank you col :55:

I didn't actually write the story BB. I merely put a topic in here, about what people go through with invisible illnesses. This 1 in particular has it is 1 I have and it is horrible and degrading.

If it helps awareness that's what it is about
 
You can be made to feel like filth being disabled but not looking how they seem to need you to look.

Think you've probably had to have had the filthy looks and horrible reactions to really get it (and I don't mean that in a dismissive way to you who haven't!)

I can look really healthy at times, with training at the moment you'd not know at all, but I can also fall over without notice, my legs can just refuse to move, I can gimp about as some on here have seen, or look totally pissed whilst 100% sober.

If you don't then go into a wheelchair (over my dead body) or use a stick (sometimes my grip won't take my weight so useless) you get the condescending judgemental pricks having a go. Thing is, you don't want to a) feel like shit b) be judged as being one of those c***s who thinks it is funny abusing disabled facilities because it is easy and they are too lazy or thick to realise it isn't for them.

Apparently if you have a nice car you can't be disabled either as the traffic warden regaled me with the tail that someone pointed at my car (nice BM doo dah) and said it was clear I didn't need to be parked on double yellows with that sort of money.

What does money have to do with it the warden asked and also apparently added, you should have seen him walking to the shops today. (It was 2012, I could hardly stand / walk at times)
 
To the lady who tutted at me as I masturbated in Tesco


Not all perverts are old men in dirty macs. I know you saw me wander in with my designer polo shirt expensive jeans and £150 air Jordan's. I know you saw my nibble fingers rapidly pull open my button fly and rummage in the hole of my boxers. You thought I was blushing with shame but I it was merely the thrill of you watching me. I carry a card to show I'm the way I am it states "FBI" on it. I have no shame.
 
Old people are the worse they view a disabled badge as a right and enjoy nothing more than waving them about.
 
I have suffered similar stuff as i have said beforebeing blind in my right eye and if i can't get my contact lense in my left i am literally blind as a bat yet cos there is no obvious thing tellng them i am young man with poor vision they don't seem to realise it, bumped into people and folk shut door's on me expecting me to see the feckin door lol honestly always be cutious to people cos you never know if they have something wrong,,,,and anyway just good bloody manners and respect!!!
 
The Fear - 20/2/2015 19:12<br /><br /><br /><br />Apparently if you have a nice car you can't be disabled either as the traffic warden regaled me with the tail that someone pointed at my car (nice BM doo dah) and said it was clear I didn't need to be parked on double yellows with that sort of money.ng to the shops today. <br />
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<br /><br /><br />Thank God you drive a BMW then :5:
 
The Fear - 20/2/2015 19:12

You can be made to feel like filth being disabled but not looking how they seem to need you to look.

Think you've probably had to have had the filthy looks and horrible reactions to really get it (and I don't mean that in a dismissive way to you who haven't!)

I can look really healthy at times, with training at the moment you'd not know at all, but I can also fall over without notice, my legs can just refuse to move, I can gimp about as some on here have seen, or look totally pissed whilst 100% sober.

If you don't then go into a wheelchair (over my dead body) or use a stick (sometimes my grip won't take my weight so useless) you get the condescending judgemental pricks having a go. Thing is, you don't want to a) feel like shit b) be judged as being one of those c***s who thinks it is funny abusing disabled facilities because it is easy and they are too lazy or thick to realise it isn't for them.

Apparently if you have a nice car you can't be disabled either as the traffic warden regaled me with the tail that someone pointed at my car (nice BM doo dah) and said it was clear I didn't need to be parked on double yellows with that sort of money.

What does money have to do with it the warden asked and also apparently added, you should have seen him walking to the shops today. (It was 2012, I could hardly stand / walk at times)
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That's why I always say 'do I have to walk round looking like a bag lady, to beable disabled' or when I get people so 'you look so well' my latest retort has become 'and you don't look stupid...

Yeah I am the same over a wheelchair too. Over my dead body. Though if the choice came of it or what my late Mom had (dementia) I would go for the physical everytime cos I would still be me.

If I don't use a stick I will end up on the floor and look like I have been drinking cos my back is fcuked and I don't have good balance so I can weave when I walk.

Still comes back to if I could only get rid of 1 of the problems of them all, it would be the stomach and bowel condition, for obvious reasons
 
colavfc - 21/2/2015 02:28

Body butter.....

Its called a coping strategy. If it makes kk feel better about the situation so be it. Thats what group forums are for? We cant all be as super human as you.
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I'm glad you think I'm superhuman. Thanks, dude.

As for coping strategies, what's wrong with getting shit faced and screaming into a pillow like the rest of us?
 
The Fear - 20/2/2015 14:17

sounds like a load of crap that story.
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My wife has Chrons and at times her need to go to the loo is as urgent as anyones. Bless her she copes well 99.9%of the time.

 
Yes, horrible Col, just in case the humour was missed, I meant it was all a load of shite !
 
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